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How to beat your fear of flying

International Traveller

Having become an arm-rest clencher, Leigh-Ann Pow goes in search of ways to address her fear of flying and learn how to laugh in the face of turbulence.

During the course of an interview with Jennifer Aniston I remember reading, the Hollywood star confessed to a crippling fear of flying.

She said she would get on flights and look around to see who was travelling, reassuring herself that the plane wouldn’t go down with children or someone famous on board.

One day John F Kennedy Jr got on the same flight as her and she was relieved because she was convinced he wasn’t going to die in a plane crash!

I probably laughed at the time but Aniston’s words have become somewhat prophetic in the years since I read that article, in more ways than just the JFK Jr thing.

I did my first long haul when I was 18 months old; a circuitous journey from England to Australia.

Throughout my childhood and teens there were lots of flights: back to Scotland to visit my grandparents, family holidays on Pacific islands, and my first solo flight when I was 16.

I loved the whole process of flying back then. The airport beforehand, the exhilaration of take-off, watching endless movies, the sky outside the window changing from day to night in a slow cycle of pastel hues and finishing in inky blackness.

In my twenties I was introduced to the wonder of business class, and it just got better.

What was not to love about a class that offered up all the things I already loved about flying with the added bonus of better food and fully reclining seats?

When I had my child in my thirties, however, everything changed. All of a sudden I developed a fear of flying, like some invisible mortality button had gone off somewhere inside.

I have heard other mothers talk about it too. Now I approach each flight as a chore, to be endured rather than enjoyed. Even the slightest turbulence puts me on edge.

I break down every journey into hours and minutes, working out how many movies I need to watch to get me through (kudos to Emirates for the seemingly endless choice).

The irony of me ending up a travel editor hasn’t escaped me (I am writing this column from a Qantas 737-800).

But apparently I am far from alone: according to figures, as many as one in four people have a real fear of flying – otherwise known as aviophobia – that prevents them from travelling regularly.

“It’s irrational," says avid traveller Julie, 42. “But I think it has something to do with being completely out of control of the situation and not understanding the mechanics of how planes fly. Flying just doesn’t seem like a natural matter of course for humans."

But there are some simple way to beat the dread:

1. Education

Cold, hard facts can be much more reassuring than the fictions we imagine when it comes to flying, so do some research before you head on board.

Find out exactly how planes work, research the probability of anything drastic happening (according to the British Civil Aviation Authority, the fatality rate per billion kilometres travelled by plane is 0.003, compared with 0.27 by rail, 2.57 by car and 106.67 by motorbike; at any given time of the day there are over 10,000 planes in the sky around the world – log on to flightradar24.com to track every plane from start to finish) and read up on what exactly causes turbulence (it’s effectively just wind and hot air and, according to figures, it results in less than 100 injuries each year out of some 800 million people who fly).

2. Medication

There are various methods of quieting nerves, from the pharmaceutical, such as anti-anxiety medications like Valium to the natural.

“In the end I think taking Valium is psychosomatic," says Julie. “Does it work to take the anxiety away, or is it just the idea of taking it that makes me feel better?"

On the natural side, the likes of Rescue Remedy and chamomile-based products are perennially popular with flyers.

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3. Relaxation

According to Anxiety Australia, our bodies react to anxiety by releasing hormones causing muscles to tense.

Releasing tension through relaxation methods such as slow breathing, meditation and visualisation can result in lowered blood pressure, a lowered heart rate, reduced muscle tension and a greater feeling of calm.

4. Distraction

Having something to take your mind off your worries is a natural and productive way to reduce anxiety; start a knitting project and aim to finish it before landing, buy a colouring-in book or invest in a travel chess set.

5. Simulation

Rather than dismissing fear of flying on the basis that they know better, many airlines offer ‘fear of flying’ courses including time in a flight simulator and access to qualified psychologists.

Virgin Australia work with Flight Experience, whose The Flight Experience course is based on cognitive therapy techniques; British Airways offers Flying With Confidence courses at various airports including London Heathrow, New York and Dubai; and Fearless Flyers is a non-profit volunteer organisation run by female pilots and sponsored by Qantas.

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5 things every hotel needs for a more restorative stay

    Kate Bettes Kate Bettes
    Wellbeing means different things to different travellers. Here’s how to pick a hotel that gets it right for you.

    The best wellness holidays aren’t necessarily spent wrapped in a spa robe. Sometimes they’re found around a dinner table in Cambodia, on a hiking trail in New Zealand or after finally beating jet lag on the other side of the world. The hotel you choose is what makes them happen.

    1. Easy access to good food

    meals from Novotel Bangkok Sukhumvit 20
    Taste delicious meals at Novotel Bangkok Sukhumvit 20.

    One of the quickest ways to derail healthy habits on holiday is to spend half of it working out where to eat instead of digging into the culture around you. Thankfully, Novotel has done much of the hard work already, with chefs building menus that lean into the flavours, ingredients and traditions of each destination.

    In Sihanoukville, Cambodia, Korkor soup – often dubbed ‘Cambodian ratatouille’ – sits alongside raw blue crab dressed with lime and chilli, best enjoyed with views across the Gulf of Thailand.

    In the lovingly chaotic city of Bangkok, the presence of food cranks up the sociability. At Novotel Bangkok Sukhumvit 20, you can settle in with mango sticky rice and stranger-turned-friends beside the pool at Sky on 20 rooftop bar, or bring them along to tackle river prawns and stir-fried crab with holy basil at the buzzing Crab Paradise Dinner Buffet.

    Then Novotel Dubai Al Barsha welcomes you with a laidback twist on the level of indulgence the Middle Eastern city is best known for up on Deck Se7en. Looking towards Burj Al Arab, the rooftop lounge has everything from Mediterranean-style dishes like seabass ceviche to Italian prosecco sundowners.

    At the other end of the scale, in the hills that surround the Novotel Bali Ubud Resort, calm comes from nature. At Siralada restaurant, Balinese traditions shape the menu while thunder rumbles over the surrounding jungle – proving the setting is as nourishing as the food itself.

    While at Novotel Nha Trang, chef Kieu Thi My Hanh and her team showcase Vietnam’s knack for balancing freshness, texture and fragrant herbs. Pho remains a favourite, while seafood salad with pomelo and mango brings those flavours together in one bright dish.

    It’s all an approach backed by partnerships with expert food creators such as Alfie Steiner, whose plant-forward recipes prove healthy food should never taste plain.

    2. Better sleep options

    Novotel Bali Ubud Resort room
    Sleep deeply with Novotel.

    There are few travel experiences more disappointing than arriving in a new country, determined to seize the day, only to fall asleep fully clothed by 3pm.

    For Australian travellers, jet lag is often an unavoidable part of the journey. That’s one reason Novotel runs sleep-focused initiatives that help guests adjust quickly without compromising on health. We’re talking partnerships with Sydney-based sleep specialist Olivia Arezzolo, known for her advice on everything from better sleep habits to beating jet lag, alongside features like pillow menus, in-room yoga content and tailored sleep guidance.

    The sooner you’re operating on local time, the sooner you can get back to more pressing matters – like deciding which spa treatment to book.

    3. More ways to move

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    Stay at Novotel Queenstown Lakeside and explore local hiking trails. (Credit: GettyI mages/ naruedom)

    Every place in the world has its own way of getting you moving: whether that’s hiking up ice-bitten mountains before a sauna or gentle stretching by the pool before a facial. From fitness centres to spas, Novotel recognises that wellbeing rarely looks the same.

    At Novotel Queenstown Lakeside, activity is inescapable. Here, hiking trails, ski fields, bungee jumps, and white-water rafting have made the region famous. The hotel’s location on the shores of Lake Wakatipu means less time spent organising yourself and more time out there experiencing them. To top it all off, you can book a private hot tub for the evening before heading back into the wilderness tomorrow.

    Bali, of course, takes a softer approach. At Novotel Bali Ubud Resort or Novotel Bali Nusa Dua, movement is less about conquering a mountain and more about a dance class between the tropical gardens and lagoon pools. Afterwards, the spa takes over, with traditional treatments like a Lulur body scrub: a combination of rice, turmeric, sandalwood, ginger and jasmine that’ll soothe muscles already relaxed by the Balinese heat.

    4. Better connections

    Novotel Sharm El Sheikh
    Kids will love a stay at Novotel Sharm El Sheikh.

    One of the best things about travel is that it gives your family stories you’ll be telling for years. Novotel helps create them with activities that bring everyone together, whether that’s trying something new, learning a local skill, or simply spending more time together.

    Go for a distinctly Thai twist at Novotel Phuket Vintage Park, where many of the family activities draw on local culture. Kids can try everything from beginner Thai boxing and language lessons to umbrella painting and – a pastime beloved by children the world over – pool foam parties. Everyone is welcome to join in, whether that’s getting splashed, covered in paint, or simply watching their children discover a new side of Thailand during the dedicated Family & Kids Day.

    A different adventure awaits at Novotel Sharm El Sheikh. Kids could be perfectly content with discos, drawing classes and new holiday friends, but the Red Sea has other ideas. Sitting on the edge of Naama Bay, days here might involve snorkelling colourful reefs, taking a boat trip to Ras Mohammed National Park or heading into the desert by quad bike or camel for a Bedouin-style dinner beneath the stars.

    5. Location is everything

    Surin Beach, Choeng Thale, Thalang District, Phuket, Thaiföld
    Explore Phuket’s gorgeous beaches. (Credit: Bence Biczo)

    Everyone’s idea of wellness looks a little different. With more than 600 hotels across 65 countries, Novotel gives guests the freedom to choose the destination that suits them best. Whether that’s a beachside escape in Phuket, an alpine expedition in Queenstown or a city break in Bangkok, there’s a good chance a Novotel isn’t far away.

    All that’s left? Choosing your version of wellbeing.

    Discover stays to inspire your everyday at novotel.accor.com.